Under age and having SEX!

I thought I would begin by stating this is and probably will be my shortest blog EVER! Why? let me tell you...

Who watched Under age and having sex last night?

http://www.channel4.com/programmes/underage-and-having-sex/4od

Whilst I felt the documentary was a good insight into the thought’s and therefore behaviour of teenagers, it was also reminiscent of conducted researches where the results could already be predicted if you applied common sense. Like, if you pour milk on cornflakes, cornflakes will at some point go soggy- no brainer, right? Well evidently not, because here is the link to the research regarding conflakesgate and the results found. I'm being serious!

http://www.guardian.co.uk/education/2008/aug/12/research.highereducation

So the no brainer reason in my eyes, as too why these teenagers were having underage sex, is because their parents had not given them any reason not to have sex. From the time a mother can sit in front of her daughter and proudly express, in a jokey fashion the reasons why she doesn’t like the words c*unt or Cum, there is a problem and you don’t need Apollo 13 to travel to space and tell you that!

Where the hell were the boundaries? Where was the fear? My mum told me from day dot, that whilst sex education was important, I had no business doing it. And as for boys? Books were the only thing I needed to have an interest in, “I brought you into this world and I can take you out” these were the words that instilled fear into me...it worked. I was raised with a clear definition of who my mother was, she was not my friend and therefore I could not speak to her in the same ways as I would with Becky, Amanda or Tasha. Whilst I believe a relationship where the child/teenager feels able to talk to their parent is highly beneficial, there needs to be a balance within the equilibrium.

I had discipline and with it guidance, which seemed to have been a removed concept amongst the parents in the documentary. With the way of world today, would you have allowed your child to be filmed talking about their sex life? All the views came from girls, were they not afraid that they would be bullied? Stigmatised as promiscuous? Or even now that their identity is revealed pressured into sex?

“Sex is something to do to take up time” are you kidding me? Although teenagers are learning about and engaging in sex, the value, specialness, self-respect, love and the importance of being in a relationship is totally lacking in their awareness. Lack of emotional understanding may also be tied into the argument. Either way, the main responsibility lies with the parent! If you are too embarrassed to talk about sex to your child then you are failing your child. If you are too lax with your child, then you are failing your child.

Find the balance and do your job...instil, guide, discipline, love, protect and care!